Shae Primus is a top Atlanta matchmaker that runs her own company called, Middleclass Matchmaker. Primus prides herself on creating love connections for middle class professionals, however, it’s not always an easy task.
Primus shared with Rolling Out that she has a hard time convincing black women to keep an open mind when it comes to dating. On her discussion board, she offered some advice to single ladies that left many women clutching their pearls.
It’s unfair that many women have had same-sex experiences, but at the same time, they judge men who have experimented with the same sex. Even if a guy has had one experience, most women will totally write him off as undateable.
Shae suggests that instead of turning a man away for having a same sex past, a conversation should be had. Primus advises women to have a talk with their potential mate to determine if he is still in that lifestyle or not before totally crossing him off your list.
According to Primus, many women eliminate potential husbands because of their sexual history, or other shallow reasons such as not making enough money, too many kids, or not having a car.
You can’t love people by qualifying standards; allow people to grow. You can meet a person today who is struggling financially trying to get their life back together and by the end of the year they are up and rolling. Guess what? You just missed out on a great guy. When you help someone build, it teaches you and builds your character, and it also means the man will have loyalty to you. You get the chance to grow together
Primus also mentions that many African-American women aspire to have relationships such as Michelle and Barack Obama or Denzel and Pauletta Washington. However, they don’t want to put in the work and make the sacrifices.
Primus stated, In both of those situations the husband talks about the wife being with them when they had nothing, yet we don’t want the beginning stages of those that #relationshipgoals,” Primus laughs.