Relationship expert, Diann Valentine knows what it takes to find love. The author and love guru has a wealth of experience in the dating game as she has been assisting women, particularly African-American women, in finding their soulmates for years. Valentine’s company, The Venus Affect, is successful in hooking up single black women who wish to date European men. How has she helped them? Diann Valentine prides herself on being able to identify the root causes of unhealthy relationship cycles. Calling herself a “champion for women”, Valentine has experience in helping African-American women to let go of some behaviors that may attribute to women being single. Often times, the stereotype of African-American women being strong is often synonymous with being angry. Sometimes a woman’s “strong personality” could prevent men from approaching her. Surprisingly, Valentine revealed that while black American men may be turned off by a strong woman’s personality, Italian men welcome it.
On her new Bravo reality tv show, To Rome With Love, Valentine is taking 5 African-American women to Italy to meet an Italian stallion. Apparently, thus us nothing new as Valentine has been taking black women to Rome for years.
I’m super excited about the show. I have been bringing women to Italy for the past five years, so for me, my career is about evolution and where do I go from here? After so many years, it made sense to start matchmaking and giving women advice on dating. After spending so much time in Italy, I began to recognize how Italian men respond to African American women. They find us very attractive. I think the stereotypes that exist in the US don’t exist there, Valentine told TheGrio during an exclusive interview
#SaturdaySelfie I am independent. I am determined. I am focused. I am aggressive. I am stubborn. I am bossy. I am moody. I am resilient. I am passionate. I am driven. I am confident. I am a black woman and I am all of the negative stereotypes that we are labeled in the US and too often by black men but God still saw fit to send me a love like I never imagined and so I am a champion for black women finding love wherever it may be. On @toromeforlove @cececounts @mrdmicah and I work hard to bridge the gap between 5 amazing women and love but it first starts with self acceptance, accountability and self love. Finding your happily ever after may not be easy but it’s always worth it. I hope you will take this journey with us starting Sun Jan 7th at 9/8c on @bravotv #ToGodBeTheGlory #DVDidIt
I’m sure you’ve heard this before. Often times, African-American women have trouble finding a mate because the pool of available men is allegedly small. In addition to their “strong personality” being a problem, many successful African-American women find that they are not approached by successful African-American men. Simply put, there has always been this alleged myth that successful black men date or marry white women. A lot of single sistas often say that the good men are all taken. While some black men are married, the other available men are homosexual or in jail which makes them unavailable. Now, somewhere some attractive, successful black man is reading this and saying, I’m available. However, it just appears that women outnumber men and that the competition is fierce. In Rome, Valentine reveals that there is no competition at all
There’s just not a lot of black women in Italy so I feel like all of the odds are in our favor when you think about taking these women to Italy to date. It grew from there. The reason why the cameras are in tow, I felt like what I had was the ultimate secret and people need to know about it
What’s great about Italy, according to Valentine, is that Italian men love black women. It’s important to note that Valentine pointed out that Italian men don’t necessarily have a fetish for black women. It’s just that Italia men love women. So, Valentine is encouraging black women to step out of their comfort zone and to go the distance for love.
This is a chance for black women to try something different, Valentine told PEOPLE. The men my clients meet there aren’t the same as American black men. They’re dating someone who is incredibly affectionate, who welcomes PDAs all the time; who has a strong sense of family and community. They’re men who don’t have the baggage of racism and being a minority in a place where you’re trying to figure out where you belong and how you fit in.